I just finished my first week of school (well now second..whoops!). I have been busy beyond busy with studying. When in high school I was the girl that got away with never studying and doing my homework an hour before it was due. I can't do that here.
But in all seriousness, I LOVE college! I am in love with my suite mates, I've really bonded with three of them and we're already talking about the next year and moving in together.
So, why is this titled blues? I miss my home and my parents, but I want to explore what this life has for me. I know it sounds bad, but I want to be on my own and make decisions for myself. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents and I'm always thankful for them. They've done so much to see me succeed in life and I'm forever grateful, but sometimes I feel like not going home on the weekends.
This weekend we have an all hall retreat and I'm super stocked for it. I can't wait to meet the rest of the girls in my hall seeing how I've only met one other person. It's going to be tons of fun to bond.
One of my suite mates is, what we call, a manies lady (the girl version of a ladies man). She is with a guy or has a guy over almost every day. Thursdays is our visitation day so they were here and TOOK OVER our living room! It's Thursday, I need to study! So we are all going to meet and discuss our expectations of things. If you have any advice on how to deal with suite mate conflict, please let me know!
Tell me about your college experiences. Did you start this week? Do you have boy crazy suite/roommates?
Hi! I found your blog as I was in search of fellow college and Christian bloggers! I'm a senior at a Christian college and have had my fair share of roommate drama. Here's my advice:
ReplyDeleteFirst I would said be honest but relaxed. Don't make it seem like the end of the world- just communicate your feelings.
Also- avoid using 'you' statements like "you have to many guys over so we can't study." It sounds accusatory and she may shut down or become defensive. Use 'I' statements such as "I have a hard time concentrating when there is a lot of noise and people.. Can we work out a compromise?" "We" statements aren't always helpful either- meaning speak for yourself not your suite mates. Saying "we have a problem with your visitation habits" sounds like you're ganging up on her.
Next- be willing to compromise, maybe her using only half of the visitation hours to have guys over since it's your only day. Or maybe every other week she can have guys over and the other weeks she goes there?
Lastly, extend Grace. You're all adjusting and have to live together all year, avoid gossiping and coming to conclusions. Hear her out!
I hope it goes well and I look forward to reading more about your college journey:)
Blessings,
Emily